But there is a deeper answer. At the moment the girls primarily see me in housefrau mode. When you ask Monster2 what she wants to do when she is grown-up she says "Stay home and look after the children, like you, Mum."
"Arrg", I scream. How can you explain to a five year old that she is unlikely to be able to afford a mortgage on one income when her time comes and that we only just can now but we are luckier than most. How can I explain that I have chosen this after great gobs of education and an interesting career, one that I could return to in a snap if I wished. How can I explain that one of the reasons I can stand being at home is that I have had an interesting career and I will probably do so again in some form but this is just a breather - time aside to focus on them.
And finally, this is a girl who can make emptying the dishwasher last for over an hour (one fork at a time, hum a tune between each one, possibly with a little dance) and that she is completely unsuited to a life where you have to impose your own structure.
- Reason number 3 - every month that goes by without an income, the husband seems to value my time less and less.
- Reason number 4 - every month that goes by without an professional occupation, my confidence fades a little more.
- Reason number 5 - the intellectual gratification of blogging has faded to a marginal return. I need something chunky to think about or I will go through cranial melt down after which I will sit on the sofa drooling and reciting Dr Seuss.
- Reason number 6 - neither of us want to clean the toilet again. We want our cleaners back real bad.
|Like this, but sludgier.|